Why Love Alone Is Not Enough
Love is necessary but not sufficient when trauma has shaped a partner’s nervous system. Every tool love has given you produces exactly the wrong result when her system is evaluating safety, not intent.
Love is necessary but not sufficient when trauma has shaped a partner’s nervous system. Every tool love has given you produces exactly the wrong result when her system is evaluating safety, not intent.
Her reactions are not choices. They are her nervous system doing exactly what it was built to do — reading the environment for threat and responding before conscious thought has a chance to weigh in.
You cannot regulate her nervous system. You can only regulate your own — and in doing so, change the environment her system has to respond to. That is the most active thing you can do.
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